Leadership equals Change. Real change happens when the subconscious mind and the conscious mind are in harmony, creating actions that are reflective of both. In other words, making a conscious decision that follow your gut and taking action on what your gut is telling you. That sounds great in your own world and mind, right? Now take that thought and apply it in an environment where you are leading people, and especially men. It's not that easy, is it?
Ladies, have you ever known deep down in your gut what the right answer was but allowed reason, or statistics, or the influence from others, or even your own doubt override that gut feeling? We all have to one degree or another, but women who are leading men face this challenge to an even greater degree. Whether perceived or real, there are consequences. If you stick with your gut, and go against the advice of the men in your group, you may lose some respect or trust if your decision is wrong. If you ignore your gut and go with the advice of your people, you may get their satisfaction, but when your intuition plays out to have been the correct answer, you beat yourself up for not sticking with your original gut feelings. That's not a fun way to go about leading anyone. I am going to share with you a few secrets that will help you overcome this fear, and allow you the luxury to trust yourself, and get down to the business of leading.
Understand what your Gut Instinct (intuition) really is.
Your gut, or intuition, is a source of your beliefs, and it's coming from your subconscious mind. We all have those moments when we know something is just wrong for us, but we can't clearly articulate why. That is our belief system (our subconscious) trying to communicate to us, but the tough part is that we have no words to describe it. It's communicated as a feeling. That is why so many of us will then dismiss our gut feelings and go with a decision that is supported by statistics, or facts, because we can articulate the reasoning. In his book, "Think and Grow Rich," Napoleon Hill describes how the subconscious mind is a source of infinite intelligence, and the conscious mind can be limited by the data it is taking in. If we allow ourselves to tap into our unlimited resource of the subconscious, we allow ourselves a way to discover that the answers we seek right inside ourselves.
You see, your gut is not something you should ignore because you don't have the words to describe it. It's your source of infinite intelligence trying to show you the answers you seek. Unfortunately, we live in a world that has conditioned us all to drown out our subconscious mind with facts, figures, and noise.
Shameless plug: This is why I love leadership coaching! It helps people tap into their subconscious mind and break the binds of their limiting beliefs. And as a coach, there is nothing more rewarding to witness than when this happens for a person.
So, how do you articulate what your Gut is telling you?
Take the time to discover and write down what your purpose is, and what you believe. There are so many of us in this world who have not done this for ourselves. Knowing your purpose allows you to begin to marry your intuitive feelings with rational words. When your purpose is well defined, you are now armed with an ability to describe why something feels wrong, or right for that matter. If you are leading a business, do the same for your organizational purpose. Answer what your company's purpose is. Why does your company exist? It may very well be an extension of your personal purpose. Now you are armed with a better way of defending your gut feelings. An added bonus is that it also helps you when you are screening and hiring people to work with, especially men.
Your Gut may be wrong from time to time, who cares?!
How often have you gone against your gut instinct? And, how often have you regretted it? I ask my wife every time she is wrestling with a decision: "What does your gut tell you?" Her gut is almost always right, and when she ignores it, she almost always regrets it. Most likely, at least 90% of the time your original gut instinct was correct, right? Think about that statistic for a second. In fact it may actually be higher than 90%. Out of 100 decision making situations, your gut instinct was the correct answer at least 90 times. Those are great odds to be operating with. Think of it this way: What will be your biggest regret? Which do we all end up regretting more? It's almost always when we ignore what our gut told us and we are and we ignored it. We tend to move on better when we have gone with our gut and that decision was wrong. Why? Because it was in line with our beliefs. What matters most is how you handle a wrong decision. If you are wrong, own it. If your gut tells you to go with a suggestion from one of your people and that ends up wrong, own that as well.
Don't apologize, but admit when you are wrong.
A secret about men is that apologies are signs of weakness in the eyes of many men. Admitting you are wrong when a decision was wrong, and then immediately focusing on the solution will get you more respect than an apology ever will. This also goes with going with a suggestion from your people. If you decide to go with one of their recommendations, and it was wrong, your ability to move past it and look for the solution will gain you much respect. Don't look for their apology, own it as your mistake, because you made the decision to go with it, and then focus on the solution. Showing that you have no fear of mistakes and that you have confidence in your ability to overcome them, as a leader, will gain you much respect, trust, and confidence from your people.
Ladies, trust your gut when you are making decisions as a leader. Seek to understand where those gut feelings come from (your intuition/subconscious mind). Define your purpose, so that you may be able to articulate why your gut feelings are the correct answer when facing a difficult decision. Stand firm on your beliefs and don't apologize for the decisions you make, but admit when you are wrong and remain focused on the solutions. You will find success in your leadership, if you trust your gut.
“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” – Albert Einstein
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